Wednesday, March 8, 2017

The Key Role of Parents in Developing Online Social Skills

As social media becomes increasingly ubiquitous at all levels of society and is constantly trending in the news,  the interest in creating online connections is shifting to our youngest students. The societal pressures that cause this include the ubiquity of connected devices and the fact that our over-scheduled children are naturally seeking social experiences online since there are little or no opportunities for un-programmed social time with peers.

We recently discovered that our fourth grade students are beginning to explore online connections with each other outside of school. This is no surprise, as the world our children live in is a continuous blend of online and offline experiences, if not yet for themselves, certainly for their parents and older siblings. Our challenge is to guide our children as they enter this world of online communication and help them understand its power and its pitfalls. 

Our Children's Digital Health

Our first concern should be the emotional and physical health of our children. A good first step is to require that all digital devices be left in a central place at home, outside of bedrooms, during family meal times and when children go to sleep. This prevents temptation and distractions and creates a natural comfort with separating from online interactions. Another suggestion is to limit, or prevent, the use of texting apps in this early stage of their social development. Our children are still learning to negotiate friendships. Without the feedback of facial expressions or voice tones, they aren't always aware of the impact words or emojis have on their friends. Remind your children that when they are confused by a text or email message, they can and should pick up the telephone and call. It is nearly impossible to settle differences or solve problems through a text message or email.
 


The Pitfalls of Elite Groups

It is hard to resist the sense of power when engaging in a private group conversation, especially when the group feels exclusive and elite. Unfortunately, negativity is contagious and without a great deal of maturity and self-awareness, these chats often devolve into gossip and meanness, even for the steadiest of young children. Additionally, online communication’s removal from direct interaction, and the ability to keep one’s identity anonymous further encourages negativity. It takes a long time, with much discussion (and probably some mistakes) before our children are able to gain footing in the digital realm. The enduring understanding we aim for is that they bring their true human self to every digital interaction, and that their online actions impact others in the same manner as direct human interactions do.


Parents are the Training Wheels 

We can help our children develop as sensitive, thoughtful participants in the online world through ongoing family conversation. It is important to foster the understanding that they need guidance from you, just as they needed training wheels on their bikes, until they have learned to appropriately negotiate the complex differences between in-person and online communication. Moreover, our children need help to learn the rules of standing up to negativity, asking consent before sharing, and always having empathy for the real human on the other side of the screen. While this work may be going on at school, parents and siblings have the greatest opportunity to influence and guide from within the family structure.


While we are always amazed that our children seem to take to online tools with such ease and enthusiasm, this does not mean they are emotionally ready for the experience.  Your challenge is to help them find balance, make sure they are engaged with peers in person in un-programmed ways that allow them to learn the nuances of social interactions, and to have the conversations that will help them develop as responsible online citizens. 

Here is a great article from CommonSense Media about the role parents should play in their children's online experiences:

7 Reasons Parents Should Care About Kids and Online Privacy

Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Think Before You Share: How to help manage the information avalanche

Last week I spent a day learning about strategies for deconstructing media messages and effectively sharing the facts rather than “confirming" the myths that seem rampant in our news feeds. The Friends Council in Philadelphia held a day-long conference entitled “Media and Information Literacy in an Era of Fake News”. Our morning was spent with Sherri Hope Culver, professor at Temple University. In the afternoon we heard from the American Friends Service Committee who have defined steps for us to follow as we share news. Here are my takeaways for teachers and parents:

Media Literacy has become an increasingly important skill, but it is rarely taught. It is not enough to only teach students to evaluate webpages since media messages go far beyond the web - they are found all around us in malls, on the street, in social media, TV and TV apps, and all manner of print materials including product labels in our own homes. A marketing firm boasts that most Americans are exposed to 4,000 to 10,000 ads a day. Now we can add the flood of news stories, some real, some invented that we must also sort through on a daily basis. How can we make sense of this information avalanche?

"Media literacy education helps individuals of all ages develop the habits of inquiry and skills of expression they need to be critical thinkers, effective communicators and active citizens in today's world" - Sherri Hope Culver

Sherri Hope Culver shared the five key questions for evaluating media. These are important for each of us to teach and practice:

Author - Who created this message?
  • Who made this and why?
  • Is it serious or humorous?  Was this a student project?
  • Can you validate the source?
Format - Deconstructing images and messages
  •  What creative techniques are used to attract my attention?
  •  Why do you like it?
  •  How did they set up this image? What is it missing?
  •  What do you think the intention is behind the message?
Audience - Empathy - What is your filter?  See the message through someone else’s eyes
  •   How might different people understand this message differently?
  •   What does this image mean to you? What might it mean to someone else?
  •   Who is paying for this? Who are they relying on to get this message and why?
  •   Micro-targeting: 
    • Observe what attracts you to one particular store or restaurant- is it the lighting? design? layout? theme? ethnicity?
    • Evaluate your choices online. What attracts you? What compels you to go certain websites?
Content - What values, attitudes, and points of view are represented or omitted from this message?
  •    Why did the authors choose these images?
  •    Does a celebrity in an ad actually endorse or use that product? Why or why not?
  •    Who’s not there?
  •    Who was left out of this message?
Purpose - What is the purpose of this message? 
  •    Why does this site or message exist? 
  •    What is its history?
  •    Who is being targeted in this message?
  •    Who is benefiting from this message?
When in doubt, ask: Why?

Other elements of messages we should check include:
  •  Currency - check the date of publication before you pass around old news
  •  Set up norms to address questions about current events:
    • What we know
    • What we don’t know
    • What we would like to know
    • Separate the person from the words they use. How do the words you choose change things?

The American Friends Service Committee has a blog entitled Media Uncovered. They shared recommendations for managing and identifying fake news:

Do- Fact check news
  • Read beyond headlines
  • Support journalists and stories that call out fake news

Don’t "Myth-bust" - reframe the story to effectively share facts
  • In a study on how people hear myths and untruths, activists found that mainstream media audiences hear the initial myths, then the activist, trying to share the facts, first repeats the myth. Their audience now hears the myth “confirmed” rather than listening to the actual fact that follows. 
  • So DON’T restate the myth, skip the repetition of the myth - go straight to the reframing of the facts.

Clicks and retweets - sharing news well done and paying for it DOES add up in aggregate - 
  • DO share and retweet - (after you have checked to make sure it’s factual) Clicking on a story supports the writers doing good work.
  • It’s easy to be fooled: clickbaiting is real - know your sources.

Here are some blogs and articles for further reading: